It’s been a while, but I had to write.
I got the first wage from my new job today, I love my work again and it is for a much more worthwhile cause than the last and is based in one of the most beautiful locations I have seen…
Yet I can’t be happy.
I can’t be happy while the lodger I took in this April still has keys to the house. I’m not going to go into too many details, but there has been a clash of personalities and I gave him just over 3 weeks notice earlier this month that I wanted him out before October.
I hadn’t even been at my new job a week before I started to resent the thought of coming home to a place I share with someone I consider to be abusing my good nature. I’d made the mistake of letting him pay just £25 a week for the room he agreed to pay £100 when he got a job for, letting him work off the rest. Yet our priorities are not well aligned and while I’ve been made redundant and found a replacement in that time… he just makes excuses time and time again.
Meanwhile, in an effort to motivate him to take action I started expecting full rent but the arrears have been building and I’m getting sure he had no intention of paying me back considering I had no means of contacting him short of ‘waiting up’ for him to come in after work.
He is 20 years older than me and I feel like his mother!!!
So after being blanked for the best part of 3 weeks, short of 2 very quick exchanges to remind him that I do, infact, mean what I said about wanting to evict him, he unblocks me on Facebook so he can beg me for more time.
Before he moved here, he said he would leave if I asked. So I have asked… and yet, as I expected, it looks like he will disappoint me again.
Had a problem today with a black guy and rejected his offer of accommodation. I’m under pressure with finding a place to go by Sunday and trying to keep up to date with my course work. I want you to show some compassion and allow me to remain with you until I am able to move to a safe environment. PLEASE!! PLEASE!!
My response was to make him aware of 2 more affordable flats on the same row as ours… and he responded with excuses, but I left him to think about what to do and ignored him and his request for my friendship on Facebook, while I tried to concentrate on work; I hate being in a bad mood, and he really put me in one.
Got somewhere in the [general area]. Just got to check a place out Monday on [such and such a road] near [such and such a building], then I can decide which one I prefer. No deposit necessary, landlord white from Morecambe.
Now at this point, I lost it with him… by the time I read it, I was already at home waiting for him to come in and expecting to have an argument when he did so. I could not leave his attitude to his housing predicament unchallenged.
Sorry but what has the colour of anyone’s skin got to do with anything?
Forgive the pun, but his true colours were really shining through and I did not like what I saw… Here is a man who, after blocking me in a childish rage and ignoring me for the best part of 3 weeks… comes asking for compassion after [inadvertently on his part] hinting of his racist tendency.
The only problem he has, is the one with his attitude… he was offered accommodation and didn’t take it because of the colour of the landlords skin? At least, that is how I interpret his message, which the latter one seems to confirm… after all, why mention skin colour at all if it was not an issue?
And he calls this trying?
Anyway, I ignored him when he got in so he explicitly had to come and initiate the argument I resented the thought of even having to have… he tried to plead his case, telling me how difficult life is with no money and I was getting bored of hearing the same thing in umpteen different ways.
Then he started accusing me of being greedy because I started to ask for the money I was due on the room at the time. It was not an unreasonable request, I was no longer in work and wanted to make my redundancy payment stretch so I didn’t claim. The money from the room was the only income I had for 2 months. Yet the 4 figure sum of potential lost earnings I have given up and had already written off for him (for work that wasn’t worth a fraction of the credit I gave him for it) since he arrived was not enough.
Because I am greedy…
Well I don’t actually need the money I get for him being here any more.
I don’t need the bad vibes, resentment and stress of having to share my house with him either…
Oh and his answer to my question?
It’s just a matter of preference based on past experience, including this one today. I just feel more comfortable with white skin, simple!
Well my preference is to live with someone who’s demeanour and attitude is not so tainted by the colour of skin…